4 Step Guide to Beginners Spanking
Spanking is fun and sexy and here’s how to do it right. Use these 4 steps to guide you into the exciting world of spanking. With more and more people moving on from Vanilla to light BDSM and kink. It’s not surprising that spanking has become a super sexy’ punishment’ sex act between two consenting adults.There are many different types of spanking, from erotic, soft to hardcore spanking. The levels increase depending on your tolerance, the objective of the spanking and the feelings and sensations you want it to induce.
Let’s go straight into how to spank with respect and have fun with it.
#1 Keep it private
Spanking is fun and best kept inside closed doors. So playful spanking can be misunderstood in a public forum, people are still averse to it as spanking can seem abusive in the eyes of strangers who haven’t understood your consent. Short of that; don’t freak strangers out and keep it to yourselves, unless they are playfriends who understand your boundaries and respect your sexual preferences.
As a beginner is fair to ask – Where is it safe to spank?
Anywhere with muscle and fat is safe, for example, the booty, is definitely safe. Areas that are not protected by fat or muscles should be avoided, such as; kidney area, neck, joints, and the tailbone and hip bones.
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#2 Variety ways of impact play
Spanking is one of the different forms of impact play, there are also slapping, paddling, caning, and whipping. Before adding any of these to your play, it is a good idea to agree on a safe word. Safe words are necessary with any play that involves striking, hitting or tying up. Select a safe word that is not part of your ‘dirty talk’, choose one that is odd and unique so it drills the point in that is time to STOP the play session. In addition to having a safe word, with impact play, you also need to communicate with your partner before, during, and afterwards. Even after you agreed on the ground rules, it is really important to keep listening and pay attention to your partner’s responses.
More important, it’s ok to change your mind about the intensity of impact play you’ve agreed with to start with.
#3 Move up a level
If you’re a beginner, you are going to start spanking by using your hand, it’s there and it’s easy. If and when you are ready to level up your spanking, you can use your kitchen as a good resource, especially if you don’t have the budget for expensive kinky toys yet. You can use a wooden spoon and if you can splurge a little get a paddle.
#4 Never skip aftercare
BDSM play or impact play is both physically and emotionally intense, resulting from the high spikes of endorphins and adrenaline during play. Aftercare means to check-in with your play-mates, giver and taker equally, that what transcribed or what went down was ok. Have a brief chat about what happened and express that you felt good or not about what went on.
If you’ve attended a sex party or BDSM event, you have noticed that often there’s chocolate set out, simply because chocolates will elevate oxytocin levels.
Let’s recap- Introducing spanking to your bedroom repertoire is quite simple; start with the booty, use your hand, have a safe word, communicate, and end it with a chat about how you feel about what went down over some delicious chocolate. Et voilà!
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