How To Choose The Right Swingers
At this point, you have either just started your journey into the swingers lifestyle or need to reassess your strategies at finding swingers who are ‘right’ for you.
How do you then find the right partner?
Finding the right swinger partners can be challenging, you need to consider your and your partner’s tastes, each other’s preferences and only then match them with potential swinging partners.
As challenging as it might seem, it can be very rewarding once you do find and meet play partners that see eye to eye on all things sexual and the lifestyle. This approach is possibly the only avenue in avoiding regretful outcomes and bad experiences in the future.
What follows is a guideline or simple rules to keep to when you go to meet a swinging couple.
1. Avoid Sex Talks On First Meeting
When you first meet a potential partner or couple, it is good to keep sex off the table. Ideally, the first meet/date should be more about getting to know each other and to determine if both have the same expectations of the lifestyle. This will save you regrets later.
2. Don’t be judgemental
Don’t be too hasty at judging people by their looks only. Photos sometimes don’t reveal everything. Sometimes people are not photogenic or not very good at choosing their best camera angles. Furthermore, when on your first meeting give it some time for everyone to relax. With time, you realise that there are singles and couples out there that might not align with what you define as ‘beautiful or handsome’ but are actually your ideal sexual fit.
3. Age of the swingers should not be used to gauge partners
Age and look in a swinger’s context can be somehow fluid. Many times an experienced couple, who are older than you, can introduce you and show you the ropes to fantasies and experiences you wish to embark. Therefore, much like age gap relationships, age and looks is not everything when it comes to making a relationship or swingers dynamic work. You will learn and grow in your sexual journey with the help of different people, making swingers’ lifestyle rich, interesting and exciting.
The ideal attitude to foster in a swinging lifestyle is to not be judgemental. Don’t discriminate against age or inexperience, just keep an open mind that a swinging partner can be any person that matches your tastes, preferences, orientations, and your kinks.
4. Expectations will lead to delusion
The best stance to take in the lifestyle is to be open to anything. Being open does not mean to participate in anything you are either; not ready for or are not into. Open means to be willing to let an evening or people just evolve. When couples and singles have a preconceived idea of what they expect of the night and who they expect to meet, the danger arises that they will close their minds and senses to anything else around them.
Sometimes just letting yourself feel the atmosphere and truly listen and watch people will make you aware of other details that are just as important to the whole sexual attraction and turn-ons.
Finding the right swinger partner is a flimsy concept that is often influenced by many factors, one of which is to be willing to just be present, to be aware of your desires that night and the sexual aura of others around you.
Treat a night out at the swingers club or party as you would when you go out into town and just have one factor in mind – to have a good time and if you happen to meet someone in the same mind wave then that will top the night.
5. Make sure that potential swingers are willing to take safe sex precaution
Most couples and singles embark swingers lifestyle for the long run with the intention of having fun and growing stronger in their relationship and their sexuality. It is then important to keep your fun safe and insist on a healthy lifestyle. If you want to enjoy a long and fun swinging lifestyle always practice safe sex.
