We all know “Dick” is short for Richard. It’s one of those facts of life you learn to accept especially if your name is Richard. However, no one ever tells you the origin. How did “Dick” become short for the name Richard?
A recent video from the folks at Today I Found Out helps explain and gives us the answer, and it’s chock-full of history.
As the video explains, it’s sort of like one of those “knee bone connected to thy bone” progressions. In the days of writing everything by hand, Rich and Rick emerged as common nicknames for Richard. Apparently, people also used to like to come up with nicknames that rhymed. Which gave rise to nicknames like Dick and Hick around the early Thirteenth Century, but unlike Hick, Dick has stuck over time.
People with a name Robert are also called Bob via much the same process as people who are named Richard being called Dick. Similarly, that’s how we get Bill from William.
Recently, I was surprised when a close friend of mine who was always into men and identified as heterosexual developed a close emotional bond with another woman. She found herself sexually attracted to another woman. Now she identifies still as heterosexual but into women.
You can probably relate at a personal level or have heard of a similar story. This is what it is to be sexually fluid. You might be sexually fluid and not even realise it or you might have had an idea for a while now. What does it mean to be sexually fluid? It’s important for people to question their sexuality to see that it’s nothing abnormal for preferences to change as we grow older.
You probably came to realise over the years that your preferences and desires have changed. Capturing how for some, sexuality tends to change over time. It’s not abnormal for sexual preferences and orientation to evolve as we grow older.
David Bowie is a classic example of evolving sexuality. In early interviews, David Bowie identified as gay, then as bisexual, but then he was insistently heterosexual for a couple of decades. If that’s not an example of fluidity, I don’t know what is.
Some people don’t have a fixed sexual orientation, and it can be an exciting thing to explore. Part of what’s wonderful about sexuality is its ability to surprise us, to grow and change as we do.
We should also mention that some people’s sexuality never changes and that’s totally valid too.
Sexuality is about experimenting, about discovering and ultimately finding out who you are. For some, it means that they are sexually fluid. That they are inclined to have experiences where gender does not impose on their choices.
It is important to not assume that because someone is sexually fluid, they are DTF because of their identity.
What does sexually fluid mean? Reiterating…
Here’s an analogy that will explain it, hopefully. Just think about someone who is sexually fluid and their sexual orientation changes like your taste buds. You never used to like oysters, but as you’ve aged, you’ve developed a liking to them. Sexually fluid is almost the same – except with people.
It means that our sexuality isn’t stagnant, it changes over time and across situations. In simple terms, sexually fluid refers to the idea that sexual preferences have the capability to change over a lifetime, and in many cases is dependent on different situations. Specifically, this idea of fluidity refers to the flexibility of sexual responses. This means that it is possible for someone to experience desires for any gender under certain circumstances, regardless of their sexual orientation.
Being sexually fluid is to be open to what arouses you sexually, regardless of sexual label and gender.
So why should all this matter to you? For one thing, if you find yourself attracted to a gender you were never into before, it’s important to know that those feelings aren’t rare or weird or abnormal.
So how do you determine how sexually fluid you are now, or might be in the future? Simply by living, experiencing, being in tune with yourself, aware and unashamed of what you feel.
Want to watch how it pans out for sexually fluid couples, watch MTV’s Are You The One?‘ Season 8’s sexually fluid cast, which the network revealed on May 30, will be the first to ever be featured on a reality TV dating show in the United States.
Hopefully, watching this show will help more people become accepting of sexual fluidity and allow others, or even themselves, to become open about their possibilities. A bouncing board of sorts to explore your own preconceived notions, along with your feelings, which could be the first step to something really good.
Diving into anal play can feel intimidating… But it doesn’t have to be. Figuring out what you like and whether you want to try out anal play is up to you and your partner. Carvaka’s Sex Toys released a video on anal butt-plugs and it has to be the best you ever see.
In addition to being explained in British English, an accent that is sexy and classy, the whole video is absolutely informative and inclusive to various types of users. Check the video below:
Whether you are a beginner or a seasoned user here what you should know about but-plugs:
1. There are many sizes
Butt plugs come in different sizes and also can be made of different materials too. The shapes and sizes are based on preference and experience. It’s a good idea to start with a small one first. These sex toys are designed with a flared base for safety reasons. Well, you certainly don’t want it to get lost up there.
2. They are designed for pleasure
The toys are used for pleasuring both men and women. Men experience pleasure because this toy stimulates the prostate, whereas women experience pleasure in part due to the plug increasing pressure on the back of the vaginal wall. When climaxing, with a butt plug the climax is more intense. In addition, this toys can also be used in preparation and practice for anal sex.
3. Other tips
The video encourages the usage of lube when using the toy because the anus doesn’t self-lubricate. Don’t forget to clean your toys after each use in order to prevent the spread of bacteria and STIs. Otherwise, have fun exploring with the help of these toys.
We all agree sex feels great. The cocktail of feel-good chemicals released throughout the brain and body delivering pleasure in the purest sense – is euphoria. Sex is the best thing in the world.
It’s no surprise that we like sex. That’s not all, sex aside from being pleasurable has a slew of health benefits. The perks of sex, masturbation included, extend beyond the bedroom.
Here are just a few of more reasons to ramp it up in bed.
1. Legitimate exercise
Oh yeah, sex counts as exercise. Some studies have found men who have sex at least twice a week were significantly less at risk of cardiovascular disease than those who have it once a month or less. Accumulative stress, anxiety and anger can pose danger for heart attack. A hot and heavy sesh from foreplay to finish can rack up a pretty good sweat.
2. Reduce stress and anxiety
When oxytocin and endorphins fire off during sex, they activate the pleasure centres in the brain that incite sensations of bliss. All the while bringing levels of cortisol (stress hormone) down. When you get down and dirty your levels of stress, tension and anxiety get a kick in the backside. Kick back, chill and enjoy this awesome moment when your mind is in total bliss and peace.
3. Improved sleep
Stress often brings the onset of insomnia, but here’s a simple solution that beats sleeping pills. Among the many hormones released during sex is prolactin. Prolactin happens to be one of nature’s biggest sleep aides, combined with the endorphins, a mix that helps relax the mind and body and make for a potent sedative. The perfect solution for sounder sleep.
4. Diminished pain
Sexual stimulation (including masturbation) and orgasm can help keep pain at bay. From migraines to soreness and strains, it turns out certain chemicals unleashed during orgasm can decrease awareness of pain. These hormones that can help block pain signals.
There has been extensive research on the correlation between pain and sexual pleasure. Experts have found sex increases the thresholds of tolerance and detection by about 40 and 50 percent, respectively.
5. The Ultimate glow
We’ve always heard about the elusive post-orgasm “glow,” but it turns out there’s a lot to scientifically back it up as well. When you orgasm, swarms of hormones like oestrogen and testosterone are additionally released. As a result, we see a boost in blood circulation throughout the body, which helps brighten your complexion and reduce dryness of skin. Some even say it can help you look younger too! According to scientists, those who romp on the reg up to 50 percent more often look significantly younger than their much “straighter-laced” counterparts.
Forget surgery and anti-aging creams, sex keeps you younger looking, too.
6. Boost immune system
More sex equals fewer sick days. That’s what the results of studies comparing sexually active people to those who are not sexually active. Studies found individuals who have sex more often have higher levels of Immunoglobulin A, one of our system’s top antibodies at the first line of defence against dreaded cold viruses. Rolling in the hay just once or twice a week has shown a difference as high as 30 percent from those who have sex on a rarer occasion.
7. Boosts libido
Are you suffering from a low libido? Believe it or not, the best antidote for a diminishing libido is -have more sex. Having sex actually boosts desire. Sex boosts vaginal lubrication, blood flow to the vagina, and elasticity of the tissues, all of which make for better, more pleasurable sex and heightened libido.
Shower sex can lead to a ton of embarrassing injuries. Because showers are small, slippery and water mysteriously causes genital friction.
What kind of injury can shower sex inflict, you ask? Anything from light to serious injury – neck injuries to wrist fractures, ankle sprains and sometimes back injuries.
To ensure your next attempt at shower sex doesn’t end in a hospital visit, we’ve offered some safety tips below.
1. Bath mat
Before anything, invest in a non-slip rubber shower mat, so neither you nor your partner, feel like you’re ice-skating.
2. CHOOSE YOUR POSITIONS
Put some thought into what positions will work best in a confined space and what factors to avoid to make shower sex fun. To avoid the usual dangerous pitfalls of shower sex try out these two sex positions.
Standing and lift
If you are fit and you can lift your partner, have her wrap her arms around your neck and her legs around your waist firmly. Hold your partner by the legs or bum and lean her against the wall for extra support and yes, you have to be pretty strong. Also, ensure there’s no soap in the shower because slipping while you’re holding someone can turn your hot session into a hospital trip real quick.
Leaning against the wall
Have her lean against the wall and maybe get her to lift one of her legs up. Here you can take a step into the shower if your shower is in the bath tube then use the edge of the tube. Again ensure that the surface of your shower is not slippery. Wash off all evidence of soap or start your play before you lather up.
3. Lube
Lube is key to shower sex, best is lube for it is silicone lube, However, steer clear of water-based lubricants. Most common, water-based lubricant will wash away in seconds. Using no lubricant or water-based lubricants will cause severe friction – not good. Do not even think about having sex in the shower without lube because water causes a severe amount of friction.
It might seem convenient, but do not use body washes, shampoos or conditioners as a substitute for lube either, since these items can cause infection. Because condoms and showers don’t play well together (rubbers can degrade during contact or slip off), shower sex should only be practised with a trusted partner.
The history of the vibrator as told by a historian
We all have favourite vibrators and sex toys hidden in our drawers or a secret room in the house. Some of us have such a great love for them that they have a large assortment and others have one or two they can not do without. Do you know the humble beginnings of your vibrators? The video about the history of the vibrator as told by a historian is something you do not want to miss out.
Vibrators help us get off, experience orgasms, and aid us in our sexual exploration. They just make us feel great about ourselves. Whether your sex toy is a small vibrator or something bigger, toys have had a very interesting beginning. Sex toys or vibrators have not always been what they are today.
Their beginnings are interesting but we are all glad that there was a need for them back in the day because we are reaping the benefits today.
Believe it or not, there is a vintage vibrator museum in NYC called BABELAND and they are the experts on all there is to know about our favourite sex toys.
Watch this short video below and let the experts tell you all about the wonderful history of our humble vibrators.
Swinging has had many wrong connotations and we need to stop believing them.
Prejudice is abundant in every facet of life and that includes swinging, it usually springs from ignorance. Let’s demystify the world of swinging or the lifestyle as most prefer to refer to it now. A lot that you’ve heard or thought you knew about swingers is false.
1. Swingers are old
Swingers reflect the demographic of the city they live in. Most swingers are affluent, middle-to-upper-middle class people who have high-earning professions and look like, well, whatever people in your city look like. They are NOT wrinkled old men and women, they are people that you see at restaurants, clubs and bars.
2. Swingers are wife swappers.
Every couple has their boundaries and set of rules they play by. Which means you will meet some couples who will part take in ‘full-swap’ and others who will like ‘same-room’ play or are into ‘soft-swap’. Every couple decides how far they are willing to go before they even meet with another.
3. No single women swing
There are a lot of single women who like to swing and they are usually refereed to ‘unicorns’. They have various reasons to be there. Some want to meet another single woman, some want to have a threesome (FFM) or they just want to have anonymous sex in a safe environment free of judgement.
4. Swingers are ‘sluts’
Swingers, believe it or not, are far more selective than most. They play safe and ensure that their fun is ongoing rather than filled with regret. Swingers are selective with whom they play, as they need to meet a criteria that fits with both parties and is in line with what they are looking for. Swingers are into the lifestyle so they can explore safely and explore new grounds and experiences together.
5. Swinging leads to breakups
Breakups are not the result of swinging but the result of communication break down between two people. Swinger, successful swingers are great at communicating their desires,fantasies and negotiating boundaries. They have a deep respect for each other and are non-judgemental towards each other but are flexible and capable of drawing the line if one of them is not comfortable with any aspect of swinging.
If a couple is experiencing relationship troubles and thinks that jumping into swinging is a solution to their problems will find that the opposite is the truth. You need to be in a strong and secure relationship to board into swinging.
6. Every swingers party becomes an orgy
Wild minds that work on supposition will fuel interesting and untrue scenarios. When confronted with the unknown your imagination can lead to very ‘awkward’, fear infused and narrow suspicions.No swingers parties do not end in orgies, unless you have chosen to go to an organised orgy.
Swingers parties are whatever you like it to be. First, you need to chat, get to know each other and then you decide together where you’d like it to go. It can be a social night among like-minded people, or a same room experience or a soft swap or a full swap, you have full control of what you like to happen in a swingers party.
7. Women are forced into swinging
At swingers clubs or parties, women lead, they are the ones that start anything. Women, ultimately rule. They are the ones that can get things started and give the green light.
8. Swingers are perverts
Swingers are actually very tamed individuals who dare not grab, catcall or disrespect anyone in the lifestyle. This is not a free for all environment, the swingers world is a very well structured world with many boundaries to navigate and a lot of desires to accommodate with much respect. These are couples who have discussed opening up to others who understand that their premises to exploring is one to enhance their relationship and strengthen their bond by adding a bit of spice to an already happy equation.
9. Bi is inclusive
While bi girls have fueled many wild male and female fantasies and more commonly accepted, it doesn’t mean that bi-men aren’t a thing. Bisexuality is just as much a dimension of the female fantasy as it is of the male and today it’s more accepted than previously. The whole notion of starting swinging is to explore dimension of your sexuality and many men have a curiosity or are bi and want to explore that side of them in a non-judgemental environment. Best as with everything, is to ask and make sure that you and everyone involved in the play are well aware of what you are willing to try and what is off limits.
10. Swinging and open-relationships differ slightly
Swinging is a shared experience where both partners venture in a sexual exploration together, even if it’s not in the same room, they are doing it together. Most swinger couples will not be ok with an open relationship, where you have the freedom to hookup with anyone even when the other is not present or in full prior knowledge of the hookup.
Swinging has no set rules except those rules that are set by a couple. Every couple has their own rules, and many swinger couples keep their relationship monogamous when not swinging. Others who like to indulge in Hotwife, cuckold or other fantasies will discuss rules that suit their individual cases. What to know more about cuckold?
Swingers are couples just like any other couple out there,but are strong in their relationship to open it up to more excitement and share new experiences together that will benefit their relationship physically and emotionally.
There are many different ways to meet swingers locally or while you travel. Meeting and choosing the right kind of swinger has never been this easy with so many ways of achieving it.
These are probably five ways to meet swingers, let’s then take a look:
1. Adult sites
Join an adult swingers site, most of these sites you can join for free just by filling a profile page and posting a photo of yourselves. Some will offer a trial membership or have all levels of membership, from standard to premium.
Once you join you can start your search for like-minded people based on age, couples or singles, what they are into, etc.
Some swingers sites like RedHotPie have travel alert features to let couples know you are visiting, which is very handy when you are away from home. RedHotPie has also an app in which lets you know who is out and about from your friends list or if you were to have put a date that you are available to meet.
2. Swingers Clubs
Another option is to go to your local swingers clubs. There are usually a few swingers clubs in your local area and you could go to meet other swingers.
Swingers clubs are great way to meet other swingers and make for a great night out. Sometimes, clubs run theme nights and if you meet someone you like you can either go to one of the playrooms in the club or opt to go to a hotel.
3. Swinger resorts
There are many swingers’ resorts around the world. When planning a holiday you can decide to spend a weekend or a week at one of these swingers’ resorts. You will meet swingers from all over the world.
The Mexican coastline, you’ll find Desire Resorts. All of these resorts are adult only and all-inclusive — all of your food and drinks are included.
Hedonism II in Jamaica is a well-established resort and one of the best known of the swingers resort.
At these resorts there you can always find swingers ready to party.
4. Swingers cruise ships and takeovers
Believe or not but today there are a variety of different cruises to choose from that cater to swingers.
Heading to the Caribbean? Looking for an European cruise ship? South America or the Mediterranean?
All of these charters are full ship takeovers that allow specific areas of the ship to be clothing optional, and they normally have part of the ship converted into group playrooms, transforming the ship into a floating swingers club.
Can’t think of a sexier way to holiday and meet sexy couples from around the world. Some popular cruises and takeovers for swingers are Lifestyle Cruise and hotel takeovers.
5. Conventions and festivals
The most famed swinger’s convention, with hotel takeover is Naughty ‘n’ Nawlins. Every year in New Orleans, down Bourbon Street, different themed parties go wild in nightclubs of the hotel and local bars.
Over one thousand swingers come to experience this convention and join workshops and seminar geared for couples.
We are witnessing advancements in almost all areas of our lives, but amidst the extraordinary leaps and bounds of technology and science we still struggle with some of our believes about human sexuality.
At the present time we are still subjected to the same sexual biases, misconceptions and myths, which have permeated general society in the past.
You’ve probably have too often felt that you need to keep your sexual views a secret to protect yourself from social scrutiny. At times even fearing rejection from your sexual partner if you were to divulge some sexual desire that is not perceived as ‘normal’.
Most people just want to know if they fall on the sexually “normal” spectrum. The truth is, there is no normal when it comes to sex; the only constants are diversity and variation, because we are all different in our sexual desires. The norm or concerns with what is ‘normal’ should be when establishing mutual consent and satisfaction with your partner.
Stop believing these 4 sexual myths.
Open or Non-Monogamous Relationships Don’t Work Long-Term
No surprise there. People tend to be remarkably biased and judgemental about relationships that explore negotiated alternatives to the more social acceptable monogamy equation.
Despite all biased more and more relationships are exploring and negotiating their boundaries. It can fall into swingers, polyamorous, kinky couples that are successfully maintaining very healthy relationships.
Several studies show that non-monogamous couples tend to be more egalitarian, open to sexual diversity and more fulfilled in their relationship overall.
Kink is Rare and Unhealthy
Sexual unusual behaviour and desires have always suffered a lot of biased and have been seen as unusual, not “normal” and rare, all of which are not true.
Despite all the kink-shaming that still goes on, especially from psychiatrists with their beloved Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), kinks are a lot more common than anyone would have previously thought.
According to a new study published in The Journal of Sex Research,about half of adults have desires and fantasies that are, well, unconventional. Contrary to popular belief, freaky sex is good for you. Seriously.
According to a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, people who like who like bondage, hot wax, and other Fifty Shades of Grey-style kinks scored significantly higher on various mental health tests than their one-position-lights-off counterparts. That may be hard to believe, considering how nipple clamps don’t always seem that sane, but you can’t argue with science.
Analysis of the questionnaires revealed that those who embraced the kink were less neurotic, more secure in relationships, had a better time dealing with rejection, and were generally mentally healthier than the vanilla participants.
Porn is addictive
There’s no doubt that some people’s porn consumption gets them in trouble — in the form of maxed-out credit cards, lost sleep, neglected responsibilities, or neglected loved ones.
Porn used in the right way between couples for example might have a lot of positive outcomes. It can help set the mood, introduce a new idea and even test your partner’s reaction to a new desire. It can aid in spicing your sex life when things get a bit dull in the bedroom. Much like anything else in life, if porn is preventing you from functioning as a productive human being or causing tension in your relationship, then you need to reconsider its value and address the problem.
Casual Sex is Unhealthy
Our society promotes the idea that casual sex is less meaningful, and is cheap, compared to the ideal, of emotionally committed bonding sex.
Casual sex has always been around but it has become more popular with the advent of apps and sites that allow for easy hookups. Until now casual sex has been viewed in a negative light, some going so far as to say that casual sex destroys the fabric of society and is morally corrupting, with some talk on casual sex damaging self esteem.
A new study published in Archives of Sexual Behaviour resulted in some new findings. This study looked at 371 college students for 9 months and was conducted by researchers at NYU and Cornell University. Those students who admitted to sleeping around reported better general well-being, lower stress levels, and higher self-esteem compared to those who follow the relationship-sex-only rule. Who would have known that being promiscuous could make you happy and be so good for you?
Now, one thing to keep in mind is that casual sex only makes you a happy if you do it for the right reasons. If you’re having sex with any random that crosses your way because you want to rebound after a horrible breakup, or to numb your lack of self-worth, you’re going to end up feeling worse about yourself, so don’t do it. If you’re sleeping around because you’re always horny and are out to just have fun, then go for it. Here are 6 tips on how to have casual sex or FWB.
Below is an interesting video exploring the debate on ‘Is casual sex unhealthy?’
It’s time to change these panicked, sex-negative information that abounds in general media and a large number of the population. It’s time to start re-writing a more accurate and friendly version that will help us propel into the next level of human sexuality.
Science and medicine is growing by leaps and bounds. With so many advances the latest has many men feeling uncomfortable and even a bit creeped out. Donors now, if male, can also donate their penis for a good cause.
In December of 2015, Johns Hopkins University announced that they had selected a wounded soldier who had lost most of his penis in an explosion for the country’s first, and the world’s third, penis transplant. The surgery has been done twice before; once in China, where the man had a negative reaction to the unfamiliar penis on his body and wanted it removed, and in South Africa, where it was a complete success and the man even fathered a child with his new member.
Penis transplants are meant to restore sexual and bodily function, as well as being “very important in terms of giving back a sense of self,” clinical research manager of the Johns Hopkins Department of Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery, Carisa Cooney, told The Washington Post.
However, the biggest obstacle for Johns Hopkins is the potential stigma surrounding penis donation. The medical team at John Hopkins have admitted that they fear people might stop donating organs all together. As a result penile donation is strictly opt-in.
If you knew you were going to die, and you had a chance to greatly improve someone’s life by donating your penis, would you do it?
To begin with 15% of women fantasise about group sex and it’s not really surprising they do. If you think that your partner doesn’t sit around fantasising about very naughty things, think again. There are 3 good reasons why women fantasise about group sex and in the right circumstance they might want to try it out.
1. It’s more exciting
In 2013, Emily Dubberley, an author and journalist specialising in sexual relationships, suggests that group sex is naturally appealing because it is highly stimulating. Orgies, group sex, swinging parties, threesomes, or gangbangs offer multiple hands, tools and tongues touching you all over from strangers who you don’t know. One person could be kissing you while another person is licking you down there or others could be teaming you. Whew, is it hot in here, or is it just me? The possibilities are endless.
2. Free and liberating experience
Sex can be just sex, without any emotional attachment. You’re not going to fall in love with everyone at the orgy. The idea of no-strings attached sex can be very exciting and liberating. Your focus is on your own sexual pleasure.
The idea of being ‘very stimulated’ – more things going on simultaneously than normally happens during sex – is part of the allure. For others it’s the possibility of having sex with both a man and a woman at the same time, or the totally anonymous nature of some group sex acts. Doesn’t this sound good?
3. The survival of our species demands it
Well sort of –In the famous words of Dr. Milton Diamond “ Nature loves diversity and society abhors it”. Society loves to restrict, to monitor and people to adhere as it creates this sense of balance and control. Nature is far stronger and will manifest itself in our sexual behaviour, which is diverse in itself.
There are many, many ways that people are wired for pleasure. Adding to this, not all women are excited by group sex fantasies. We all have unique erotic fingerprints.
Anything new or unpredictable fires up our dopamine receptors to give us sexual pleasure. Therefore it’s natural for humans to desire new and different sexual stimulations or scenarios.
Whatever fantasy is ruling your senses at the time go with it and fear not, it’s all helping you and your partner experience higher pleasure. Whether you and your partner want to take your fantasy to the next level it’s entirely up to you. If you want it and you happen to have the right scenario why not be wild and live wild.
Now don’t mistakenly assume that all women want to engage in-group intercourse, and gather up all your buddies for your next fun- date, unless, of course, she asks you to.
There are parties everywhere, places to go and people to meet. How are you ever going to get all the energy for all this
Easy! The key to keeping your energies up and being in the mood is eating the right food.
For thousands of years, people have searched for edible items to guarantee peak sexual performance and pleasure. Ancient Romans swore by hippo horns, while even now, tiger penis is thought to be a libido booster in China.
Luckily for you, but especially for the hippos and the tigers, there are healthier and more palatable edibles that give you longer-lasting results than these two above mentioned quick-fix aphrodisiacs.
Best of all you can find these foods in your pantry and not in some African Savannah, food that really can lead to a better sex life. Your choice of food can put some sizzle – or fizzle – in your sex life.
Fuel your sex machine for all the action ahead of you, or you’ll regret it! To be in peak condition and to get another eager invitation back for some more, here is a low down on foods that boost your sexual performance.
Chocolate
Chocolate has been described as the food of Gods. An Italian study, from the Journal of Sexual Medicine, shows that women who eat chocolate daily have higher libido and more satisfying sex than those who don’t. Chocolate contains phenylethylamine, a chemical compound that can produce feelings of euphoria by releasing dopamine, the neurotransmitter in the brain, which surges during orgasms. Strawberries dipped in melted dark chocolate anyone?
Oysters
Ah, the rumoured aphrodisiac! Oysters are an acquired taste, no doubt, but for some, this seafood provides a zinc boost, which ultimately leads to longer, stronger sex. And watching your woman shuck might get you more excited than you think. Just make sure she’s fond of them first.
Bananas
Bananas are a great sex food. Bananas are ideal to give you endurance in the bedroom, as they are a rich source of vitamin B that converts carbohydrates into energy. It also helps your body to produce sex hormones such as testosterone. Having a banana a few hours before getting into action can keep you pepped up!
Coffee
A cup of coffee in the morning may pack more than just an energy boost. Research suggests that there are several health benefits associated with drinking coffee. Drinking coffee improves arterial health and decreasing the risk of plaque formation. Coffee may not only improve heart health but also your sexual health by allowing blood flow into the right areas. A recent study has found that two cups of coffee a day can decrease a healthy man’s risk of erectile dysfunction and help maintain healthy vaginal lubrication.
Avocados&almonds
Avocados and almonds are full of good fats that are great for circulation. Anything that keeps the heart beating strong helps keep blood flowing to all the right places. For better blood flow, eat foods like granola, chickpeas, cashews, peanuts, walnuts and root vegetables. They’re all rich in L-Arginine, which improves sexual function by boosting circulation, and thus erectile response.
Good circulation is thought to be crucial for sexual functioning in both men and women. A good, strong erection requires good blood circulation, hence, awesome sex.
Spinach
This green leafy vegetable is loaded with sexual benefits. “It is rich in Vitamin E, which is a major catalyst in the production of sex hormones in the body. It is also rich in manganese, which facilitates the production of the female hormone oestrogen.
Spice it up with Chilli!
Chilli doesn’t just spice up your palette but also your bedroom. Chilli peppers perk up blood circulation, which is good for sexual functioning. So, dig into some spicy food when spicing up things between the sheets.
Honey & Mead
Not many foods have the aphrodisiac credentials of honey. After all, it lends its name to the best part of a wedding: the honeymoon. More precisely, the honeymoon is named for mead; an ancient alcoholic beverage made with honey and long thought to increase the libido—especially among people just married.
Mead has been made for centuries, and modern science is finding that there’s something to the idea that honey makes newlyweds even more amorous. It contains significant quantities of B vitamins, proteins, and nitric oxides that promote a healthy reproductive system and increase sex drive. Mead also lowers inhibitions and wedding night jitters through its alcoholic qualities.
Making better dietary choices may lead to better bedroom antics, and better health overall, a win, win situation. A little extra thought to the choices you make may lead to better bedroom antics and better health overall.
This is not an all-inclusive list, are there any edibles you swear by that have helped you achieve better sexual health and performance?
Ah, summer sex. There’s just something so, well, hot about doing it while the sun. If you’re single, then there’s the thrill of who your next fling might be; if you’re taken, the relaxed vibe will send libidos soaring and taking you back when you first met.
Summer time, a time for backyard BBQs, afternoon at the beach, long and slow sailing down the river, and or weekends spent camping. What do all of these things have in common? They are all done outside. Add a little warm weather and your sexiest summer outfit and you might get to think about getting done outside yourself. Being out in the sun is like a buffet for the senses.
So if you’re going to be having lots of sex, how do you stop it from becoming same-same?
Here are three ideas to get you started…Enter the steamy summer sex bucketlist. The rest is up to you!
Dress sexy
Summer offers freedom to be carefree and more extrovert with a bigger flare for the risqué. Dare to become bolder and why not wear a semi-sheer shirt, a very short skirt or pair of shorts. At the beach you’ll sport the tiny bikini. Or whisper to your partner you’re going commando. Every moment through summer and your choice of clothes should spell readiness for sex.
Sex on a boat
There’s the esky stocked with champagne, the hot breeze, the aroma of salt water – and the fact there’s not really much else to do! Wait until you’re securely moored before things get hot and heavy, not worth the risk of a rock collision.
Doing it in the pool or spa
Why is the water-plus-sex combo so appealing? The fact there’s nothing more refreshing when you feel hot and sweaty? Two sexy, randy, wet bodies rubbing together. From heating it up in a hot tub, to sexy pool time, to a secluded stretch on the beach, no matter what you do, everyone seems to agree: Getting wet is sexy. However, use lots of lube! Water washes away your body’s natural lube, so pack the silicone-based stuff.
Stranger/ Foreign affairs
Sex with a random stranger is definitely hot. Sex with a random stranger with an accent, wow! This is a must do in everyone’s bucketlist. The best part? No strings, and no messy breakup – just a pleasant parting of ways based on mutual understanding.
What is a summer holiday without a fling? If you always fantasised about having a hot fling with a stranger, either go out to a club or swingers party. Or with a little imagination get your partner to role play it, and set a rendezvous at a nice hotel bar and pick him up.
There is lots of ways to enjoy summer, but don’t wait, take action now. Before you know it is back to winter and you’d be wishing you tick some of these off.
The topic of sex and food is one filled with exaggerations and myth. For thousands of years, people have searched for edible items to guarantee peak sexual performance and pleasure. Ancient Romans swore by hippo horns, while even now, tiger penis is thought to be a libido booster in China.
Luckily for you and me, and especially the hippos and the tigers, there are healthier and more palatable edibles that give you longer-lasting results than these insane quick-fix aphrodisiacs.
Best of all you can easily find these foods in your pantry and not in some African Savannah, foods that really can lead to a better sex life. Your choice of food can put some sizzle – or fizzle – in your sex life. For those who indulge in food fetish, food takes a different context, it is sexually arousing.
Fuelling your body with healthy, nutritious foods will place you on the path to great sex. Likewise, regularly indulging in unhealthy foods can impact your sex life in a negative way. Poor eating habits and unwanted weight gain can affect self-image and confidence, and excess body fat also interrupts healthy blood flow, which plays a prominent role in the body’s ability to become sexually aroused.
Are then foods proven to improve our sex lives? Yes, there are. Let’s start with the hypothesis that we have the best sex when we are feeling healthy. With this in mind, any healthy food can lead to healthy sex.
Strawberries are sexy, want to hear why? They are rich in antioxidants that benefit the heart and arteries.
Avocados and almonds are full of good fats that are great for circulation. Anything that keeps the heart beating strong helps keep blood flowing to all the right places. For better blood flow, eat foods like granola, chickpeas, cashews, peanuts, walnuts and root vegetables. They’re all rich in L-Arginine, which improves sexual function by boosting circulation, and thus erectile response.
Good circulation is thought to be crucial for sexual functioning in both men and women. A good, strong erection requires good blood circulation, hence, awesome sex.
Chocolate has been described as the food of Gods. An Italian study, from the Journal of Sexual Medicine, shows that women who eat chocolate daily have higher libido and more satisfying sex than those who don’t. Strawberries dipped in melted dark chocolate anyone?
One wouldn’t normally think of salads as a sexy food. Those who eat them regularly, four times a week or more, report better sex lives than those who don’t. Some common salad ingredients include sex- enhancing chemical as well. Arugula absorbs toxins that negatively impact our ability to respond to stimuli. Ditto figs and citrus fruits are also great for the heart. Of course, a strong heart is a must-have for active, confident, fulfilling sex.
A recent study has found that two cups of coffee a day can decrease a healthy man’s risk of erectile dysfunction. According to a recent study, coffee may perk you up in more ways than one. Additionally, the U.S. Dietary Guidelines Advisory Committee released a report this year stating that coffee consumption is associated with a reduced risk of type-2 diabetes and heart disease. The authors of the study believe that coffee and caffeine may help muscle tissue in the penis relax, allowing more blood flow to the area.
Oysters, ah, the rumoured aphrodisiac! Oysters are an acquired taste, no doubt, but for some, this seafood provides a zinc boost, which ultimately leads to longer, stronger sex. And watching your woman shuck might get you more excited than you think. Just make sure she’s fond of them first.
Are there bad sex Foods?
There are quite a few foods that negatively impact our sex lives. Alcohol is an example and is the worst culprit. Sure a drink or two over the course of an evening might relax inhibitions and increase confidence. However, boozing it up before sex can lead to erectile dysfunction in males, and inability to achieve orgasm in females.
Overeating before the act is also a sure way to dampen your desire as it can lead to tiredness, lack of enthusiasm and a dampening of desire. Rule of thumb, if you’re making plans for some romping then consider eating moderately.
Making better dietary and fitness choices may lead to better bedroom antics, and better health overall, a win, win situation. So now that your diet is optimized for more O’s, what do you do with this newfound fitness? enjoy it of course!
A cuckold relationship can be tricky to navigate and it isn’t for everyone. There are a few challenges that come with embarking into cuckolding but for the right couple these obstacles can be overcome fairly easily.
A cuckold relationship involves one partner, usually the male partner, watching or knowing about his partner having a sexual relationship outside the partnership. Trust, loyalty and intimacy are the underlying fabric to a successful cuckold relationship. Although a cuckold relationship seems difficult, it can in a secure, trusting and loyal relationship strengthen the bond between the couple.
These four tips can help you make the most of your cuckold relationship.
1. Discuss whether this is a fantasy for you
Cuckold relationships are successful when it develops from a trusting, secure, and loyal relationship. Watching or knowing about his partner’s sexual adventures will often sexually arouse the male. There needs to be a level of trust and loyalty to start with in a cuckold relationship. This is a fantasy that can’t be pursuit by a relationship that has trust and loyalty issues, it would inevitably lead to aggravating the existing issues and most likely lead to a breakup.
Any couple contemplating cuckolding, need to discuss whether this is a fantasy is right for them based on numerous factors; levels of trust, loyalty, how long they have been together, and the state of their sexual life.
2. Be loyal
A couple involved in cuckolding will need to remain loyal to each other; this is not an opportunity to search for better prospects out there. This is a sexual fantasy to enhance and strengthen the couple’s relationship. Cuckolding will be successful when both partners understand, or agree prior to starting this fantasy that this is strictly sexual and that there is no emotional attachment.
3. Fun is the name of the game
After going down this lane and you have discussed the detail of your fantasy and boundaries, there should be no feelings of jealousy or guilt, only feelings of fun and great memories.
4. Safety first
Since it’s often the female of the couple that goes out to meet the third party there should be steps taken to ensure her safety. She needs to be absolutely comfortable with her new sexual partner. As a couple you need to make sure you chose a person you can trust. It is also important that all three members discuss what they want to get out of this fantasy and that each understands that each others boundaries. Moving these hurdles out of the way will make for a better and enjoyable night.
Before taking part in cuckoldry, both partners need to sit down and have a open and frank discussion about what they each hope to get out of this fantasy. They need to express their concerns and their expectations and discuss boundaries.
