Stop Believing These 4 Sexual Myths


Stop Believing These 4 Sexual Myths

We are witnessing advancements in almost all areas of our lives, but amidst the extraordinary leaps and bounds of technology and science we still struggle with some of our believes about human sexuality.

At the present time we are still subjected to the same sexual biases, misconceptions and myths, which have permeated general society in the past.

You’ve probably have too often felt that you need to keep your sexual views a secret to protect yourself from social scrutiny. At times even fearing rejection from your sexual partner if you were to divulge some sexual desire that is not perceived as ‘normal’.

Most people just want to know if they fall on the sexually “normal” spectrum. The truth is, there is no normal when it comes to sex; the only constants are diversity and variation, because we are all different in our sexual desires. The norm or concerns with what is ‘normal’ should be when establishing mutual consent and satisfaction with your partner.

Stop believing these 4 sexual myths.

  1. Open or Non-Monogamous Relationships Don’t Work Long-Term

No surprise there. People tend to be remarkably biased and judgemental about relationships that explore negotiated alternatives to the more social acceptable monogamy equation.

Despite all biased more and more relationships are exploring and negotiating their boundaries. It can fall into swingers, polyamorous, kinky couples that are successfully maintaining very healthy relationships.

Several studies show that non-monogamous couples tend to be more egalitarian, open to sexual diversity and more fulfilled in their relationship overall.

  1. Kink is Rare and Unhealthy

Sexual unusual behaviour and desires have always suffered a lot of biased and have been seen as unusual, not “normal” and rare, all of which are not true.

Despite all the kink-shaming that still goes on, especially from psychiatrists with their beloved Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), kinks are a lot more common than anyone would have previously thought.

According to a new study published in The Journal of Sex Research,about half of adults have desires and fantasies that are, well, unconventional. Contrary to popular belief, freaky sex is good for you. Seriously.

According to a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, people who like who like bondage, hot wax, and other Fifty Shades of Grey-style kinks scored significantly higher on various mental health tests than their one-position-lights-off counterparts. That may be hard to believe, considering how nipple clamps don’t always seem that sane, but you can’t argue with science.

Analysis of the questionnaires revealed that those who embraced the kink were less neurotic, more secure in relationships, had a better time dealing with rejection, and were generally mentally healthier than the vanilla participants.

  1. Porn is addictive

There’s no doubt that some people’s porn consumption gets them in trouble — in the form of maxed-out credit cards, lost sleep, neglected responsibilities, or neglected loved ones.

Porn used in the right way between couples for example might have a lot of positive outcomes. It can help set the mood, introduce a new idea and even test your partner’s reaction to a new desire. It can aid in spicing your sex life when things get a bit dull in the bedroom. Much like anything else in life, if porn is preventing you from functioning as a productive human being or causing tension in your relationship, then you need to reconsider its value and address the problem.

  1. Casual Sex is Unhealthy

Our society promotes the idea that casual sex is less meaningful, and is cheap, compared to the ideal, of emotionally committed bonding sex.

Casual sex has always been around but it has become more popular with the advent of apps and sites that allow for easy hookups. Until now casual sex has been viewed in a negative light, some going so far as to say that casual sex destroys the fabric of society and is morally corrupting, with some talk on casual sex damaging self esteem.

A new study published in Archives of Sexual Behaviour resulted in some new findings. This study looked at 371 college students for 9 months and was conducted by researchers at NYU and Cornell University. Those students who admitted to sleeping around reported better general well-being, lower stress levels, and higher self-esteem compared to those who follow the relationship-sex-only rule. Who would have known that being promiscuous could make you happy and be so good for you?

Now, one thing to keep in mind is that casual sex only makes you a happy if you do it for the right reasons. If you’re having sex with any random that crosses your way because you want to rebound after a horrible breakup, or to numb your lack of self-worth, you’re going to end up feeling worse about yourself, so don’t do it. If you’re sleeping around because you’re always horny and are out to just have fun, then go for it. Here are 6 tips on how to have casual sex or FWB.

Below is an interesting video exploring the debate on ‘Is casual sex unhealthy?’

It’s time to change these panicked, sex-negative information that abounds in general media and a large number of the population. It’s time to start re-writing a more accurate and friendly version that will help us propel into the next level of human sexuality.

You might be interested in also reading 7 Common Sex Myths Debunked.


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