How To Break Up With A Swinger Couple
There are many reasons why couples enter the lifestyle, but the most common reason is to bring back sexual excitement into their relationship. Swinging is fun, exciting and is all about having a variety of sexual experiences with people other than your significant other.
At first glance, it seems like a straightforward practice: meet up with desired couple or single, have some fun and part with no-strings attached. Swinging couples want variety and novelty and forming relationships are not their primary objective. There will be times where the chemistry is so strong and couples go back for repeat sexual experiences or performances. These swinging experiences will come to an end eventually, not to say that the friendship will too.
It is inevitable that through the course of swinging friendships will develop. It’s great to have friends who understand your idiosyncrasies, but this in turn will make sex awkward. Some couples seem to be less affected by the friendship factor and continue to peruse sexual encounters. However, it just doesn’t work for all couples.
So how do you then let the other couple know that you are not interested in them anymore? How do you break up with a swinger couple?
When you are dealing with a seasoned couple it seems to be easier, as they understand that swinging is a sexual experience and not a relationship. When you are dealing with a newbie couple or a couple who just got attached, then the best course of action is to think of this as regular dating.
Here are a few suggestions
1. Be Slow to Respond to Invites
If they send a message asking to meet up, be slow to answer and when you do say you have a previous engagement. Your lack of enthusiasm should indicate to them that you are not eager to catch up.
2. Contact them
If they continue to message, contact the couple and let them know that you’d like to take some time to discuss your relationship. Since the relationship is not hinged on emotions they will understand and move on. Maybe it will be a bit awkward to see each other at swingers parties but a polite hello or nod will suffice and the situation will just fade away.
3. Gently Break the news
Break the news to them gently, try to be as considerate as possible and try to remain friendly. After all, the swinging community is a small group. You’re fairly likely to run into them at some point down the road.
Swinging is about novelty, fun, new experiences and a couples’ sexual exploration .
