Beginner’s GuideTo Swinging.
Swinging has been around for years, it’s nothing new. In recent years however, people have been talking about it more. With the explosion of erotic novels, 50 Shades Of Grey and the Internet, swinging has become a popular topic of conversation.
There will always be couples that are more adventurous and willing to sexually explore and expand on their sexual repertoire. If you are a couple no matter your age, who are at the cross roads of exploring and looking to embark in your journey as a swinger, this might help you.
Here are a few things you must consider and discuss before you throw yourselves into swinging.
1. Why do you want to start swinging? Couples need to discuss their individual reasons why
It takes two to tango, and when boarding on a new adventure there are always two sides to consider. Be open and listen to each other reasons for wanting to be part of the swinger’s world. Be honest about your feelings, your desires and be considered of each other’s boundaries. Communicating these openly will ensure and create a comfortable atmosphere to sexually explore together.
2. How you want to swing or your style of swinging
There are so many ways to explore in the swinging lifestyle. There are many different types of swingers. You can begin by going to swingers’ parties by observe first and talking to experienced swingers. Or if you are the type who like to dive in then by all means, just as long as you both are on the same page and comfortable with your decisions on the night. You can start with threesomes, full swap, soft swap, same room or separate room swinging, etc.
3. Have some rules
Before you get started in your new adventure it is important to set some ground rules. These of course will change through time, however they ensure you both explore this new world of possibilities at the same pace and without making one feel uncomfortable or staying behind. When you come in as a couple you evolve together. You have to respect each other comfort zones and also help each other break through new grounds.
4.Take it slow
You have a whole lifetime with each other, therefore there’s no hurry. Enjoy meeting and talking to like-minded people. Get prospective from listening and learn from other people’s experiences. Take it as slow as you like. For some couples it means; same room swinging, for others it means just going with the flow.
5. Meet couples online, or meet & greet parties
Online is an easy way to find a couple that matches your criteria. Have a small phone conversation and maybe agree to meet for drinks somewhere neutral. It’s a great way to see if they look the same as their online profile pic and whether they are on the same wavelength as you are and have the same expectations for you first hookup.
6. Go to a swingers club
Find a swingers club next to you. Once you start looking you’ll be surprised that there are a few to choose from. Also there are many private parties going on. Dress to impress and be polite. Remember there is an array of people with a lot of different desires so you must be very clear with what you are looking for.
You will enjoy swinging if you are honest, flexible, open and available at all times.
