Bringing BDSM Into Your Bedroom

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Bringing BDSM Into Your Bedroom

The popularity of 50 Shades of Grey, has instigated a movement toward BSDM curiosity, from its inception to today. You, like many others, have decided you needed to learn more about it. However, taking your cues off of 50 Shades might not be the best idea.

Here are some tips on how to bring BDSM into your bedroom, the right way. From trying BDSM for the first time with a reluctant partner, to letting go and exploring your desires, these tips will help you introduce or expand your BDSM experience.

Kink in many ways seems like the next natural progression in many long-relationships. Something that you graduate to, once the more vanilla side has been saturated. Driven by  curiosity and a desire to continue to express your desires and sexual needs.

Introducing BDSM To Your partner

Keep an open mind and be prepared for your partner’s lack of enthusiasm to your new interest. In most cases, one partner will reach a sexual pinnacle ahead of the other, it is not a major dilemma. To smooth the transition it might be ideal that you start slow. Read and investigate together on what BDSM is and what you both might like or dislike. Find out where you could start experimenting.

One great way to start out, is to get an erotic novel where the woman is a submissive relating to a man who is dominant, read it out aloud with your partner and see what gets stirred up. A good read you might enjoy is a 1954 French novel called, “The Story of O” by Pauline Reage.

Start small and slow, you don’t need a Red Room of Pain or a dungeon or scary basement, try silk ties for restrains, try different roles -sub & dom and even do role reversals. If you are feeling adventurous, you maybe find out where one of your local BDSM community is having a gathering or party.

However, if at the end BDSM is not something that is for you as a couple, there are other ways to spice your relationship

Let Go

BDSM has always lived in the shadows and been misunderstood by a vast majority and thanks to 50 Shades Of Grey mainstream has done a bit of research and found that it’s a vast area of erotic pleasure. One so vast that can accommodate an equally vast of pleasures, desires and inclinations. It was high time BDSM stepped out of its ‘shady’ dark existence.

Our sexual interests will move or evolve from our teen immature desires, to more sophisticated and broad desires and for some it hovers in the BDSM nature. Whether it’s BDSM that seduces you or something else, it is important not to wait for a rut to get creative in your relationship or bed.

Explore Your Desires

Explore your sexuality and let it evolve. You might start as a sub and later grow into a powerful female Dom for example. Your life and sexual experiences will help you transform into a more confident and sexual person, who knows well their desires, sexual triggers, pleasures and into someone who takes charge of their own sexuality.

For some people the progression is almost intuitive and for others it takes jumping a few extra hurdles to come to understand where and how BDSM fits into their current life, their sexual self and even how it fits within their relationship.

However, it happens, and if it does happen kink is a natural progression for many couples and individuals. It’s an extension of what has been happening in their sexual life. It helps spice up a relationship that might have stagnated and was lacking the spark. With entering kink it can kick-start the relationship, ignite the excitement and take your relationship up a notch. Everyone needs a boost sometimes and that’s what BDSM just provides. There are also other ways to do this, but if BDSM has been in the back of your mind as a possibility then it’s time you give it a try and just progress at your own pace.

Sex is a life long learning process. Mostly, remember to keep an open mind about how to love…and how to make love

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Maya Fuller

I am passionate about improving relationships and the dating world, specifically the sexuality component. Maya enjoys writing about relationship, exercising, and going to the beach whenever she can.