5 things to try when you are in a sex rut
Boring sex happens to all of us. Remember even the happiest of couples go through cycles. Fear not your relationship is not in the brinks of a breakup or doomed forever. Just because you’re not in sync or your sexual desires are not inline, it’s just the way thing roll sometimes. Dry spells happen to the best of us and it’s absolutely normal.
After a while, even great sex might become routine and feel mechanical and boring because it’s always by the same route. Or sometimes is because you keep missing each other when the mood strikes.
Good news is that this sex rut you’re going through doesn’t have to be permanent. In fact, there are a ton of things you can do if you are experiencing a sex rut.
To troubleshoot your rut, here are 5 things to try when you are in a sex rut:
1. Communication
Great sex comes from great communication. To solve a problem, you need to talk about it. To explore new sexual grounds again you need to first talk about it. First to gauge interest, to set boundaries and to express satisfaction or dissatisfaction.
2. Share your fantasies
So don’t be afraid to share some sexual fantasies with one another. Try a little kinky sex, bondage or go to your first swingers party. Or a sexual fantasy can just be about trying a new position or getting your partner to pay more attention to a certain erotic zone.
3. Masturbate together
It might sound silly but try it out. Masturbating together will open you up to learning both your turn-ons. Put on an erotic movie or read an erotic book. This is a great way to open up about some of your fantasies and to watch and show each other how you get off. Learn what turn-ons your partner has.
4. Switch it up
Change the routine a bit. Any element of surprise will send your adrenaline racing. Initiate sex in the shower or while cooking, anywhere but the routine place which often is the bedroom.
5. Try sexting
We live in the era of tech and as such make use of it to steam your sex life. Sexting and dirty talk are a great way to get each other in the mood. Get things started before you get in the bedroom, lubricate the lust before getting in the bedroom.
Again do not press the panic button if your sex life stales a bit. Our mood and libido go through cycles so give it time, use your imagination. sex ruts happen to all of us and you can get absolutely out of it.
