The changing face of modern relationships
A growing number of couples are choosing to experience the lifestyle and not strictly live by the traditional format of relationships -monogamy. The changing face of modern relationships is challenging traditional views.
Instead, couples are investigating alternative relationship models. They are choosing to have multiple partners or significant others over a lifetime. Because traditional relationship formulas aren’t always fulfilling or suitable and certainly are not for everyone. Recently, Scarlett Johansson, a high profile actress, was quoted saying that she thinks it isn’t “natural” to be a monogamous person.
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This, of course, doesn’t mean that monogamy, as it has existed through the ages will cease to exist, certainly not. Monogamy will continue to exist as it is the ideal relationship model for some.
So here are all the different ways to do relationships – to explore love and sex.
The focus of a swinging relationship is to meet up with other people for recreational sex, although deep bonds and friendships can develop.
Swingers are couples who decide to open their relationships to others. They are couples who are deeply in love and emotionally connected and they do not value sex in the same way their monogamous peers do. Whom believe sex is an extension by which their relationship will benefit when it’s open to experimentation, alone or together. They believe that their sexual needs are better met when open.
Anyone can take part in swinging whether you’re single, or in a relationship. But before you start, you have to be able to talk about certain things to your partner – boundaries must be set. Rules put in place. Limits agreed to.
Because of the intimate nature of the lifestyle activity demands a level of trust and support to enjoy the benefits.
With polyamory, deep relationships are the focus, although the sex is often fun. They are open to having, more than one romantic relationship at a time, with the knowledge and consent of all their partners.
3. Open marriage
It means there is a certain flexibility in this marriage where some open marriages lean toward poly with deeper ties to lovers. And other marriages lean toward swinging with more fleeting sexual encounters.
This is a relationships style where the couple involved allow themselves a certain degree of sexual exploration, perhaps kissing or light play. A light manner in which they can re-oxygenate their relationship. Monogamish relationship differ greatly with some couples negotiate terms that include “only one night stands” or “when we travel,” while others have a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy.
5. Everything in between
These are relationships that are in and out of all kinds of constructs. They could be married and dating, have friends with benefits, sometimes swinging and so on. A ground that many relationships find themselves going through, sometimes to find their preferred relationship module and sometimes because they enjoy moving from one to the other.
In all these relationships, the only ties that bind the couples are respect, honesty, openness and kindness. Obviously also rules and boundaries agreed on to protect their core relationship. Not to forget as with all relationships, it takes a lot of hard work and communication to achieve success. Practising open communication so both people in the relationship feel that their needs are being met is absolutely important in any given relationship.
It’s time to recognise that one size doesn’t fit all. And if you do not fit neatly into any of these relationship categories, nobody really does. So be just honest and authentic and do it your way. The important thing is not what we’re doing in our relationships but that we’re on the same page about what we want the relationship to look like.
Which is the type of relationship you are happiest in? How do you do your relationship?