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      Maya Fuller on March 14, 2017 at 3:01 am · in reply to: Your Healthy Sex Lives Matter #7314

      Are We Meant To Be Monogamous?

      In a video with Mashable, Dr Roshini Raj used various studies to look closely at the question – Are we meant to be monogamous?

      With open marriages and swinging lifestyle on the rise and no longer shocking, more couples are increasingly partaking in the popular lifestyle. Leading to more people wondering and questioning the validity of traditional monogamy.

      Dr Raj begins by explaining that, from an evolutionary standpoint, females are built for monogamy, while males aren’t. This is what she says:

      “From an evolutionary standpoint, it’s better for men to have many partners to spread their seed, but better for women to have one partner who will help her feed and provide for the child.”

      What is it that makes some people inclined to be less monogamous than others? From a study, looking at rodents found that higher levels of a hormone called Vasopressin, which is linked to trust and empathy, correlated with higher levels with bonding and hence fidelity. This link was also seen in human females.

      In addition to this, our society favours monogamy as it is easier for a child to grow up with two parents. From an economical, emotional and social standpoint, being in a monogamous relationship is EASIER. However, it’s natural for some people to have a bit of a wandering eye.  In Dr Raj’s words -“we might not be biologically programmed for it, for many of us it makes sense to be monogamous.”

      It seems that some of us are wired to not be monogamous and prone to casual encounters and others are happily in a monogamous arrangement.

      Watch the video that follows as Physician Dr Roshini Raj explores if human beings were built for monogamy. Watch her answer the question “Are humans built for monogamy?”

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8jFjjPGaRVM

      Men seem to belong to the non-monogamous group as half the women do too. To help monogamy, the happy hormone Oxycontin that promotes bonding incites your partner to want to be with you and stop the wondering eye…

      At the end just do what makes you feel comfortable and happy, whether it’s monogamy or non-monogamy. Diversity is good, and we should all be able to love freely.


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      Maya Fuller on March 2, 2017 at 1:53 am · in reply to: Your Healthy Sex Lives Matter #7297

      What is a gang bang? Porn Star Explains

      We all have our fantasies and at times wish we could just ask someone who has been there and done it all about it. Wouldn’t that be nice, over coffee, you and your besty talking about what is a gang bang and what it might feel like to be part of one?

      Scratch that out because it’s not going to happen, only of course if they are friends from an adult site like RHP….

      Many women are into gang bang but are too afraid to ask, or too afraid to sound like they are freaks. Actually there are many reasons why women like gang bangs.

      If everything else fails, there’s always porn, and that’s what the good people over at WoodRocket’s YouTube did. They decided to ask some of our favorite adult film to both describe one, as well as share their experiences performing in one.

      What is a gang bang really like?  Play the video below and find out ….

      [embed]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hf1XsfRfWeg[/embed]

      Now you know! Maybe it’s something you’d be in to?

      Feature image:Wood Rocket.

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      Maya Fuller on February 17, 2017 at 4:37 am · in reply to: Your Healthy Sex Lives Matter #7258

      What is bondage – BDSM?

      There are many people who enjoy the pleasure of bondage and there are also others who are curious or interested.  If you are curious about BDSM then you have so many questions about what is bondage – BDSM, why do people enjoy it, how to get started, and who to ask about it?

      Before 50 Shades, bondage was almost entirely an underground sexual activity and rarely spoken about outside that circle. With 50 shades, bondage became common mainstream talk and ever since there was more public awareness.

      BDSM is an acronym that fuses together a variety of erotic practices – Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission, and Sadism & Masochism. Given the wide range of practices beginners often feel overwhelmed, in fact some people engage in some of practices and do not consider themselves as practicing BDSM.

      People enjoy BDSM for numerous reasons; it’s fun, a form of escapism and a great way to experiment with the dynamics of power in a relationship. In fact, women who take BDSM report an increase in sexual confidence

      For those embarking on their first tentative steps into this new amazing world the video below entitled WHAT IS BONDAGE/BDSM  by carvakasextoys explains everything you wanted to know about BDSM and bondage but were afraid to ask!

      So if you’re thinking you’re into BDSM or want to explore it with your partner or on your own this is a good watch.

       

      The trick with anything new is to keep an open mind about sexuality, keep it safe and consensual and always have honest and open communication.

      BDSM can be lots of fun –  challenging the power dynamics of your relationship, exploring new sides to your sexuality, finding new ways to experience pleasure and increasing your pleasure with new toys that enhance your senses.

      Bringing BDSM into your bedroom can be fun and teach you to become better communicators in and outside the bedroom. BDSM requires you to talk about your boundaries, to talk about your turn- ons and turn-offs with blunt honesty, and most important to learn to respect and understand each other ways to express, experience and feel sex.

      Start off slow, see where you fit into this new amazing world and explore your sexuality.


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      Maya Fuller on January 25, 2017 at 6:58 am · in reply to: Your Healthy Sex Lives Matter #7156

      Are Your Insecurities Affecting Your Sex Life?

      Accepting and loving our bodies the way they are, can be rough. Most of us think that certain parts of our physique need to be hidden.  Which builds insecurities, shame, shyness and a less than ideal sex life.

      Are your insecurities affecting your sex life?

      When you spend time worrying about the way you look, you’re less able to concentrate and enjoy other things. Like intimacy and sex, for example.

      Having negative feelings about your body does not fare well with intimacy. It’s hard enough to open up to someone, it’s harder if you feel that certain parts of your physique need to be hidden.
      Studies show that shame and anxiety about one’s body lead to the avoidance of physical closeness and reduced sexual satisfaction.
      If you are too worried about how your body looks and how your partner thinks of it, you are not concentrating in enjoying yourself, his desires or be present in the moment.
      Society and social media is always going to try and skew your perceptions and point of view in the wrong direction. The media is not a good place for comparison as the models do not represent the vast majority of women body shapes. Additionally, the photos are planned and not candid, so the end product is not even real because the models also look different in real life.

      Body image is being challenged by a rapidly growing body-positive movement lead by incredible women world wide , including our own body positive model and 2016/17 Sexy Australian of the Year – Stefania Ferrario.

      Let’s stop hating our bodies and start accepting and loving them. Appreciate your body, unapologetic love yourself, orgasm more, have unconditional sex, strengthen your relationship and be happier for it

      How?

      Put a stop to that running negative body commentary in your mind; about what your partner thinks about your body or panicking when he touches parts of your body you’re uncomfortable with.  Do not let your body insecurities get the best of you in the bedroom and focus on becoming a better sex Goddess – small steps at a time.

      Sex researchers noted that women who considered themselves “good in bed” had a much better body image than women who didn’t, even though they weighed the same.

      In short; sexual competence creates body confidence. If you want to feel better about your body get better at sex and your partner will love you more for it.

      There will be good days and there will be bad days, but if you continue to on the road to self-love it will pay off in the long run.

      Your new gained confidence will change how you perceive yourself and how others perceive you.

      Be yourself and rock what you have.

      So here’s to embracing ourselves and the year ahead.

      feature image source: Curvy Kate

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      Maya Fuller on December 8, 2016 at 11:22 pm · in reply to: Your Healthy Sex Lives Matter #7054

      How to deal with jealousy in open relationships

      Being in an open relationship will sometimes exacerbate feelings of jealousy. We are all capable of feelings of jealousy but some of us are better at controlling them. How do you deal with jealousy in an open relationship?

      The most important lesson is that jealousy is a totally normal feeling to have. Learning to deal with it will make your connection stronger and your swinging a whole lot enjoyable.

      Identify first why you’re feeling jealous. What are its the roots and triggers. Once you identified them you can stop them from taking control. Most importantly, keep communicating with each other. Swinging is all about open communication, a tool essential to a successful and happy lifestyle.

      Also work on your self-esteem and confidence, which in time will diminish feelings of jealousy.

      Feelings of jealousy will occur but there will be times that they are of lesser impact than other times. So manage a system between the two of you to put a stop to something that is inciting feelings of jealousy that could lead to anger, fights and outburst.

      It should be noted here that bursts of jealous rage, or any other unacceptable behaviour in front of other people who are not at fault is not acceptable.

      When you feel those feelings taking over have a signal or ask for timeout so you have a chance to talk it over and possibly continue or put a stop to what you were doing.

      Swingers, understand that there are things couples need at times to work out between them and most swinger couples will courteously leave.

      Sometimes to deal with jealousy you need to take two steps back in the way you play. Not to worry, it all takes time, some couples plunge in with no apparent feelings of jealousy and others do.

      We are all different and all it means is that it will be a bit rigid to start but once your mind and heart really see that your partner is there to share sexual experiences with you then your fear and jealousy will subside.

      Feelings of jealousy are exacerbated often because this is so new and your brain needs time to re-think and readjust to new sets of attitudes and perspectives. With further exposure to things that initially made you uncomfortable or challenge you will become less intense.

      Couples need to communicate with each other at all times, to reassure each other and to make time to be intimate together when they are alone to establish that their passion for each other is ongoing.

      Below is a video discussing jealousy in relationships by Open Lifestyle

      Read our post on How To Try Swinging Without Ruining Your Relationship Swinging, especially if you are just starting experimenting with the lifestyle.

      [embed]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fquQEmU9Akw[/embed]

      Feature photo: Imgur

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      Maya Fuller on November 11, 2016 at 5:50 am · in reply to: Your Healthy Sex Lives Matter #6990

       How To Find The Great G-Spot

      The G-spot is one of life’s mysteries and equally as perplexing the method of how to find the great G-spot. Ever since the discovery of the G-spot by German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg in the 1950’s  much debate has been ensued.

      The G-spot has been a hot topic among sex scientists mainly, because not all women can achieve an orgasm from its stimulation.

      Scientists and sexperts now agree that for some women it does exist, and it can lead to amazing orgasms.

      Don’t beat yourself up if you’re having problems finding your girl’s G-spot or if she has having troubles finding and hitting it too. If you know the right way to go about looking for the G-spot, your girl will enjoy the hunt. You can use your hands or toys to help you achieve the toe-curling orgasm from finding the G-spot.

      Our good friends at Carvaka Sex Toys have created an amazing and informative video entitled ‘The Great G-Spot Debate (FInding It and Hitting The Spot)’  on how to find and hit your girl’s G-spot.   

      [embed]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5sHbhIhbso&feature=youtu.be[/embed]

      Do this all correctly, and she should experience a deeper, lower-body-shuddering orgasm. You’ll have some fun, too.


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      Maya Fuller on October 4, 2016 at 3:55 am · in reply to: Your Healthy Sex Lives Matter #6936

      How To Break Up With A Swinger Couple

      There are many reasons why couples enter the lifestyle, but the most common reason is to bring back sexual excitement into their relationship. Swinging is fun, exciting and is all about having a variety of sexual experiences with people other than your significant other.

      At first glance, it seems like a straightforward practice: meet up with desired couple or single, have some fun and part with no-strings attached. Swinging couples want variety and novelty and forming relationships are not their primary objective. There will be times where the chemistry is so strong and couples go back for repeat sexual experiences or performances. These swinging experiences will come to an end eventually, not to say that the friendship will too.

      It is inevitable that through the course of swinging friendships will develop. It’s great to have friends who understand your idiosyncrasies, but this in turn will make sex awkward. Some couples seem to be less affected by the friendship factor and continue to peruse sexual encounters. However, it just doesn’t work for all couples.

      So how do you then let the other couple know that you are not interested in them anymore? How do you break up with a swinger couple?

      When you are dealing with a seasoned couple it seems to be easier, as they understand that swinging is a sexual experience and not a relationship. When you are dealing with a newbie couple or a couple who just got attached, then the best course of action is to think of this as regular dating.

      Here are a few suggestions

      1. Be Slow to Respond to Invites

      If they send a message asking to meet up, be slow to answer and when you do say you have a previous engagement. Your lack of enthusiasm should indicate to them that you are not eager to catch up.

      2. Contact them

      If they continue to message, contact the couple and let them know that you’d like to take some time to discuss your relationship. Since the relationship is not hinged on emotions they will understand and move on. Maybe it will be a bit awkward to see each other at swingers parties but a polite hello or nod will suffice and the situation will just fade away.

      3. Gently Break the news

      Break the news to them gently, try to be as considerate as possible and try to remain friendly. After all, the swinging community is a small group. You’re fairly likely to run into them at some point down the road.

      Swinging is about novelty, fun, new experiences and a couples’ sexual exploration .

       


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      Maya Fuller on September 23, 2016 at 2:31 am · in reply to: Your Healthy Sex Lives Matter #6901

      What Orgasm Type Are You Girl

      Women are unique and beautiful creatures who have their own ‘signature’ orgasms. According to Adina Rivers there are many types of women during orgasms. On her latest video installment -Types of Women During Orgasms- she describes six different types of women based on the way they respond to orgasm.

      Adina Rivers says:

      “Every girl orgasms in a completely different way, and of course, yeah, some women don’t orgasm at all and that’s fine too,” says Rivers. “Just know that the way you experience orgasm and the way you express it, can be a pretty magic and accurate reflection of where you stand in terms of self-love, inner healing, happiness and inner peace.”

      The six different types of women orgasms are: The Screamer, The Ripper, The Vibrator, The Faker, The Potty Mouth and The Spiritual.

      It’s way more fun to watch Adina re-enact each of the six types of women orgasms. Have fun viewing the video below:

      [embed]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EOmqB3ITZSU[/embed]

      There are probably more types of women orgasms that can be added to this list because each woman and her orgasms are different and unique.

      Are there any other types of women orgasms you could add to the list?

      photo credit :Adina Rivers | MyTinySecrets


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      Maya Fuller on August 14, 2016 at 3:45 am · in reply to: Your Healthy Sex Lives Matter #6000

      What Swinging Means To A Swinger

      We all wear masks. Every day.

      We put on our professional faces for our bosses and colleagues. We wear the friend, girlfriend masks for our friends, acquaintances, or boyfriends. We are in and out of roles almost simultaneously and in constant rotation, it’s the role we’re all used to play day in and day out. We use the disguise of indifference to shield ourselves from strangers.

      Only in moments of intimacy, when we let our guard down, do we reveal ourselves. There is unmistakable honesty in those moments. It is this honesty that a couple experiences once they have truly and honestly opened up about their sexuality. There are no veils, no masks, no half truths or lies to hide behind, only naked and raw honesty. Swinger couples have come to realise that opening their relationship up affords them the insight into a realm of intimacy that they have never experienced before – both are free to experience their sexuality to the fullest and grow together in it. This is what swinging means to a swingers; to drop all disguises and bravely unveil their real selves blatantly.

      Swinger couples that have achieved true openness between them shed a light into our culture that has imprisoned us to think that we have ownership of our partner’s pleasure. What it failed to extend is that we are each others guide to better understand our sexuality and our pleasure. You should nourish each other and not sink each other. To let go and grow away from societal fears of commitment is liberating. Ignorance and fear stops many couples from taking the first step into the swinging lifestyle.

      Yes, sometimes when we hear something that shocks us, like you would if you were not curious or not already in the swinging lifestyle, and temporarily thrown in the deep it all might seem like the worst idea. Fear and ignorance act very much like a jail to our thoughts. To have the guts to step outside the bounds of a pre-defined marriage rules is scary and outrageous, and it is, if one and not both partners are willing ‘explorers’. However, if both are willing to explore into something new whether as voyeurs, exhibitionists or fully participants, then you are going to add new dimensions into your relationship.

      Swinging is and will continue to be perceived as a form of rebellion, but ultimately, as you come to understand it’s a release, an affirmation of your own agency, a exercise of reckless unapologetic freedom.

      Do you want to try out swinging? Do not let societal norms contain you or define you. Try it and judge for yourselves. It might turn out to be a short holiday or a permanent fixture to your life. Whatever it’ll be, fly past social restrictions and experience together a new page in your lives.

      High time we stopped policing our and others sexuality, all it’s doing is holding us all back. Swinging for swingers is a platform in which they grow intimate together and connect deeply. It might be a journey that is short lived or a long and continuous fixture of their lives. Swingers are all different but together they set out to celebrate their sexuality, to foster a strong bond and to be translucent to each other.  Regardless, whether swinging is for you or not celebrate your sexuality as a couple whichever way you both feel comfortable and happy with.


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      Maya Fuller on July 31, 2016 at 2:02 pm · in reply to: Your Healthy Sex Lives Matter #5984

      How Orgasms Affect Our Bodies

      When we orgasm different parts of our bodies go into work to help us achieve our sexual pleasure. The last day of July is National Orgasm Day, it seems then fit to learn more about orgasm and how it affects different parts of the human body.

      Some women have difficulties achieving orgasm but  with time and a sense of self-exploration anyone can learn more about their body’s pleasure responses, which will lead to experiencing more orgasms. Taking the time to figure it out will definitely be a worthwhile journey.

      Remember that every orgasm is different, and every woman experiences her orgasms differently.  However, having a better understanding of how our body reacts to sexual stimulation can help you unlock the knowledge of what gets you there. Take time either alone or with your partner to figure out what you like and find your own rhythm.

      But how much do you know about what your body is doing when you reach that bliss? Understanding more about what actually happens in your body during arousal and orgasm might help you reach climax more often.

      In the infographic below is a quick summary to what your body is doing while you’re working towards an orgasm. Take a look and see which parts of the body work together when an orgasm takes place.

      National Orgasm Day

       

       

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      Maya Fuller on June 16, 2016 at 3:10 am · in reply to: Your Healthy Sex Lives Matter #4648

      How To Choose The Right Swingers

      At this point, you have either just started your journey into the swingers lifestyle or need to reassess your strategies at finding swingers who are ‘right’ for you.

      How do you then find the right partner?

      Finding the right swinger partners can be challenging, you need to consider your and your partner’s tastes, each other’s preferences and only then match them with potential swinging partners.

      As challenging as it might seem, it can be very rewarding once you do find and meet play partners that see eye to eye on all things sexual and the lifestyle. This approach is possibly the only avenue in avoiding regretful outcomes and bad experiences in the future.

      What follows is a guideline or simple rules to keep to when you go to meet a swinging couple.

      1. Avoid Sex Talks On First Meeting

      When you first meet a potential partner or couple, it is good to keep sex off the table. Ideally, the first meet/date should be more about getting to know each other and to determine if both have the same expectations of the lifestyle. This will save you regrets later.

      2. Don’t be judgemental

      Don’t be too hasty at judging people by their looks only. Photos sometimes don’t reveal everything. Sometimes people are not photogenic or not very good at choosing their best camera angles. Furthermore, when on your first meeting give it some time for everyone to relax. With time, you realise that there are singles and couples out there that might not align with what you define as ‘beautiful or handsome’ but are actually your ideal sexual fit.

      3. Age of the swingers should not be used to gauge partners

      Age and look in a swinger’s context can be somehow fluid. Many times an experienced couple, who are older than you, can introduce you and show you the ropes to fantasies and experiences you wish to embark. Therefore, much like age gap relationships, age and looks is not everything when it comes to making a relationship or swingers dynamic work. You will learn and grow in your sexual journey with the help of different people, making swingers’ lifestyle rich, interesting and exciting.

      The ideal attitude to foster in a swinging lifestyle is to not be judgemental. Don’t discriminate against age or inexperience, just keep an open mind that a swinging partner can be any person that matches your tastes, preferences, orientations, and your kinks.

      4. Expectations will lead to delusion

      The best stance to take in the lifestyle is to be open to anything. Being open does not mean to participate in anything you are either; not ready for or are not into. Open means to be willing to let an evening or people just evolve. When couples and singles have a preconceived idea of what they expect of the night and who they expect to meet, the danger arises that they will close their minds and senses to anything else around them.

      Sometimes just letting yourself feel the atmosphere and truly listen and watch people will make you aware of other details that are just as important to the whole sexual attraction and turn-ons.

      Finding the right swinger partner is a flimsy concept that is often influenced by many factors, one of which is to be willing to just be present, to be aware of your desires that night and the sexual aura of others around you.

      Treat a night out at the swingers club or party as you would when you go out into town and just have one factor in mind – to have a good time and if you happen to meet someone in the same mind wave then that will top the night.

      5. Make sure that potential swingers are willing to take safe sex precaution

      Most couples and singles embark swingers lifestyle for the long run with the intention of having fun and growing stronger in their relationship and their sexuality. It is then important to keep your fun safe and insist on a healthy lifestyle. If you want to enjoy a long and fun swinging lifestyle always practice safe sex.


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      Maya Fuller on April 29, 2016 at 3:13 am · in reply to: Your Healthy Sex Lives Matter #3989

      How To Try Swinging Without Ruining Your Relationship

      Swinging is in the mind of many couples, but the fear that trying it out might change their relationship for the worse is a valid concern. There are many unfounded lies about swinging in the open but they should not believed. Understandably, one should always be cautious so its not surprising couples worry about what could become of their relationship if they were to jump into swinging. The common concerns are; fear of being left feeling discouraged, angry or jealous or regretting the experience. How can swinging affect your relationship? How do you try swinging without ruining your realtionship?

      There is no way of knowing how you are going to feel after you try out swinging, that is true until you try it. Wondering what might and might not happen will not help you other than remaining in a state of constant ‘what if’.

      The best approach is to give yourself permission to make those mistakes and err, because it’s those potential mistakes, those things that could backfire so greatly, that wind up being the absolute best things about the lifestyle.

      It’s the adventure, the possibilities and the constant surprise that makes the lifestyle appealing, and without mistakes, some regrets and fears what would life be and the lifestyle similarly.

      If there are things that you encounter or experience in life as well as in the lifestyle that you did not like or felt uncomfortable with,  just learn from it and never repeat them again. Basic principals we apply in life are very useful in the lifestyle too.

      What makes the lifestyle so enjoyable for a lot of couples is that taking risks, brings in the element of the unexpected and it will reinvigorate and allow freedom of expression into their relationship and their sexual lives.

      Expect the first time you try swinging to leave you with feelings of jealousy, even conflicting feelings and to a degree leave you in a state of some of semi-confusion. These are all natural feelings that help you find your feet in the lifestyle. You are after all going against the societal and ingrained thinking that have been with you for many years. It is a great force to walk away from and to challenge at times, but in it is then that you learn new things about you and your relationship. Whatever that lesson(s) may be make your decision that best fits you and your relationship, whether it is continuing your exploration in the lifestyle, come back to it at a later stage or never to return. You are your best judge.

      If you decide to carry on this new found lifestyle expect this and more, because we are all different in very different, unique relationships and at different levels of learning. Swinging will stretch and force you to grow and learn about your partner, about yourself , about your pleasure senses and your pleasures. Experimenting and pushing boundaries is what maintains and forges a happy life and relationships. It’s only when we stop exploring and experimenting through pushing boundaries that we risk relationship failure.

      When you try out swinging, the lifestyle will teach you something new about yourself, about your relationship and about your sexual inclination and appetite. There will be occasions and experiences you will no like and there others you will treasure, but all in all swinging will be however small or extended your participation, a learning journey you take with your partner. Good luck and have fun seeing each other experiencing pleasures and friendships that were until now only a possibility.


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      Maya Fuller on February 29, 2016 at 5:33 am · in reply to: Your Healthy Sex Lives Matter #3907

      Bringing BDSM Into Your Bedroom

      The popularity of 50 Shades of Grey, has instigated a movement toward BSDM curiosity, from its inception to today. You, like many others, have decided you needed to learn more about it. However, taking your cues off of 50 Shades might not be the best idea.

      Here are some tips on how to bring BDSM into your bedroom, the right way. From trying BDSM for the first time with a reluctant partner, to letting go and exploring your desires, these tips will help you introduce or expand your BDSM experience.

      Kink in many ways seems like the next natural progression in many long-relationships. Something that you graduate to, once the more vanilla side has been saturated. Driven by  curiosity and a desire to continue to express your desires and sexual needs.

      Introducing BDSM To Your partner

      Keep an open mind and be prepared for your partner’s lack of enthusiasm to your new interest. In most cases, one partner will reach a sexual pinnacle ahead of the other, it is not a major dilemma. To smooth the transition it might be ideal that you start slow. Read and investigate together on what BDSM is and what you both might like or dislike. Find out where you could start experimenting.

      One great way to start out, is to get an erotic novel where the woman is a submissive relating to a man who is dominant, read it out aloud with your partner and see what gets stirred up. A good read you might enjoy is a 1954 French novel called, “The Story of O” by Pauline Reage.

      Start small and slow, you don’t need a Red Room of Pain or a dungeon or scary basement, try silk ties for restrains, try different roles -sub & dom and even do role reversals. If you are feeling adventurous, you maybe find out where one of your local BDSM community is having a gathering or party.

      However, if at the end BDSM is not something that is for you as a couple, there are other ways to spice your relationship

      Let Go

      BDSM has always lived in the shadows and been misunderstood by a vast majority and thanks to 50 Shades Of Grey mainstream has done a bit of research and found that it’s a vast area of erotic pleasure. One so vast that can accommodate an equally vast of pleasures, desires and inclinations. It was high time BDSM stepped out of its ‘shady’ dark existence.

      Our sexual interests will move or evolve from our teen immature desires, to more sophisticated and broad desires and for some it hovers in the BDSM nature. Whether it’s BDSM that seduces you or something else, it is important not to wait for a rut to get creative in your relationship or bed.

      Explore Your Desires

      Explore your sexuality and let it evolve. You might start as a sub and later grow into a powerful female Dom for example. Your life and sexual experiences will help you transform into a more confident and sexual person, who knows well their desires, sexual triggers, pleasures and into someone who takes charge of their own sexuality.

      For some people the progression is almost intuitive and for others it takes jumping a few extra hurdles to come to understand where and how BDSM fits into their current life, their sexual self and even how it fits within their relationship.

      However, it happens, and if it does happen kink is a natural progression for many couples and individuals. It’s an extension of what has been happening in their sexual life. It helps spice up a relationship that might have stagnated and was lacking the spark. With entering kink it can kick-start the relationship, ignite the excitement and take your relationship up a notch. Everyone needs a boost sometimes and that’s what BDSM just provides. There are also other ways to do this, but if BDSM has been in the back of your mind as a possibility then it’s time you give it a try and just progress at your own pace.

      Sex is a life long learning process. Mostly, remember to keep an open mind about how to love…and how to make love


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      Maya Fuller on February 15, 2016 at 5:32 am · in reply to: Your Healthy Sex Lives Matter #3852

      4 Usual Suspects You’ll Find At An Orgy

      Orgies, seem to be the final sexual frontier, where you get to be with multiple partners, experience guilt-free sex and  possibly even live out some of your wildest fantasies in just one night.

      Orgies, inevitably will attract many different characters each with their own peccadilloes and quirks.

      Sex can be messy and clumsy, and that’s just between two people. But what happens when you add more to the mix?  Who are the people you will be likely to meet at an orgy? Much like any social, greet& meet gatherings or your swingers parties there are all kinds of people who you will encounter, from the experienced to the first timer to the completely awkward individual.

      There are at least 4 usual suspects you will find at an orgy, however, if you have more to add please help us make this a more complete list.

      1. The awkward first timer

      You can see it in their eyes that they want to join in, but they’re just not ready to take that plunge yet. The awkward first timers have let panic set in and instead of heading for main floor to copulate, they’ve decided to stay back in the waiting room, sipping on coffee and eating comfort food.

      Working up the nerve to actually go to an orgy can take time so a round of applause for them for taking the first step. Hopefully, they’ll work up the courage to really join in on the fun next time.

       2. The Try hard

      Just because this is an orgy doesn’t necessarily guarantee that someone will sleep with you, but to get into ‘try hard’ mode is not ideal. Yet there’s always that one person who thinks they just need to go to great lengths to convince others to roll with them. Skip this sales pitch it’s a turn off!

      Remember this is an orgy not your office. Orgies are as different as the people in it, there’s not one orgy that is exactly the same as the next. Sometimes you get to participate and other times you take a viewers seat, either way it’s still pretty incredible.

      3. The Awkward One

      Poor guy. He’s goofy looking. He’s trying to look normal. He’s probably faced a lot of rejection and he’s here to gain some confidence. Though the awkward one at the orgy may not look like much, you shouldn’t be so quick to rule him out. Out of all the candidates he’s probably eager to please and potentially he could have some mind blowing sex.

      4. The uptight

      Orgies are a great opportunity to freely express your sexuality in a safe and comfortable environment. However, there are individuals that come to orgies for a very different reason. Sadly, they come to pass judgement. It’s a very futile exercise as they escorted out of the party.

      With all this said maybe you feel like watching some comedy or learn how to organise an orgy of your own. Watch this teaser trailer of ‘ How to plan an orgy in a small town’.

       

      [embed]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DOQ-EJTJSV0[/embed]


    • Participant
      Maya Fuller on January 28, 2016 at 9:51 am · in reply to: Your Healthy Sex Lives Matter #3841

      Ass, Booty and Anal Sex.

      We live in an ass-fixated society. Entire careers have been built on them. What would be of Nicki Minaj, Kim Kardashian or even J.Low? Their assets – ample, round booties that spawned their entire fortune. Ass, booty and anal sex are the talk of this generation. There is twerking, twerking butts and butt implants and a huge interest in everything anal, according to PornHub.

      Yet, we’re a little anal about talking butt stuff in the bedroom.  Backdoor sex, while it’s definitely not everybody’s cup of tea, anal sex can help deliver some incredibly powerful orgasms for men and women alike. There’s nothing to be ashamed of.

      According to Porn-hub, in their PornHub Insight pages where they post infographics, and statistics behind their visitor’s search habits, giving us a surprisingly fascinating insight into the most private of behavioural habits and the cultural psyche of our time. What they found is that Millennials love all things anal.

      Instead of going on and talk about everything anal, instead we thought we feature one of the videos of Simple Pickup entitled How Have Anal Sex. 

      Since we live in a culture where we don’t have time to read here’s the short of the long:

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=57&v=_hBuX4Xf_y4

      It’s brief, informative and educational. So if you’re curious, take the plunge.

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